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Is Overthinking Killing Your Happiness?

Stop thinking so much!

This sentence is repeated so many times in my head throughout my day, it might as well be my mantra! I say it to myself when I’m replaying potential scenarios in my mind over and over and over again. Can anyone relate?

Reducing thinking to a minimum is not only the key to greater happiness, but it’s also the key to higher performance success and plain old getting stuff done.

I don’t know about you, but I have a history of thinking about things to excess. I used to believe it was the only way to solve problems and make the right moves in life. Now I realize that’s how it disguises itself.

Overthinking is the enemy of productivity, happiness, and achievement.

Not only does it use time and energy that could be spent on whatever it is you’re thinking about, but it destroys your confidence and peace of mind – two things that are crucial to you living your life in the most fearless and inspired way.

Over-thinking is the cause of your anxiety and the reason for your hesitation. Time spent “in your head”creates a platform for doubts to thrive, and the opinions of others to rule your life.

While conscious thought is a powerful tool that has its applications, you’ve become overly attached to it because it provides you with the illusion of control. When you consciously run a scenario through your mind over and over, ruminating over every possible outcome, you feel like you have your thumb on the situation. This false sense of security is not only a waste of time, but it also lulls you into self-sabotage.

By thinking things over, you inject your limiting beliefs, fears, and the opinions of others which you worship so faithfully. And this is detrimental to you becoming everything you know you can be. Unnecessary thinking is the fire hose to the raging fire that is your potential. It’s time to start trusting your subconscious mind.

While the conscious mind works hardest during states of angst, the subconscious mind talks to you during states of relaxation. It requires you to let go and listen, then executes without a second thought. Because the more you think, the more you fuel doubt, insecurity, and fear.

So, how do I stop overthinking and reacting?

  • Accept that You Have a Problem with Over-Thinking

The first step to healing is acknowledging that you have a problem. If you feel like you can’t get out of your own head and over-thinking is stopping you from living a happy life, making decisions, getting things done, or forming meaningful relationships, then you have a problem.

  • Put things into perspective

It’s not the end of the world, and you are still alive, so what are you worrying about? There have been countless situations in the past that had you hamstrung, but you overcame them, didn’t you? You have faced adversity before, and you are still here!

  • Be willing to forgive yourself if “it” hits the fan

Allow yourself to fail, because in life “it” will hit the fan. We overthink because we want so to succeed. We desperately seek validation to reinforce our sense of worth. To heck with that! Always try to win while simultaneously being perfectly fine with failure.

When you have forgiven yourself prior to any failure happening, you no longer fear anything; once you stop fearing failure, you can stop overthinking.

  • Be willing to forgive others

It’s no surprise that having the misfortune of being treated undesirably leads people to suppress and repress anger toward other people. Forgiving others has to start with a decision of surrendering our will. This surrender invites God to begin working in our lives on a deeper level, allowing God to heal us.  We can ask God to enlighten us with the understanding that we need to fully forgive from our hearts.  We simply need to make the choice to be open to forgiveness and reconciliation.

  • Stay positive

Many times people start to overthink because they are scared. They think of all of the possible things that could potentially go wrong. Instead, start to picture all of the things that can go right and keep those thoughts in the front of your mind. Create a”gratitude list. (See previous blog, “Attitude of Gratitude”.

And finally,

Meditation and prayer teach me the art of focusing and listening.  I find the turmoil of the day gets tuned out as I pray for His will and guidance.  The practice of asking Him to help me in my striving for perfection by overthinking puts a new perspective on the tedium of any day, because I know there is honor in any job done well.  The daily discipline of prayer and meditation will keep me in fit spiritual condition, able to face whatever the day brings!

Until later,

God bless us all!


Stafford Becky
April 3, 2019 at 5:38 PM

Wise thoughts

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